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Full time Business Owner/ Marketer & Award winning blogger. Championing the #GIRLBOSS

Handbag lover, coffee addict & lipstick Princess

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover

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Hey Lovelies,

I've had a bit of time off Blogging recently as my life has been crazy hectic - mainly socially. You know what they say though, "life is for living" so I find it hard to turn down any invite sent my way. Although I may sometimes moan about this, I wouldn't have it any other way as I feel truly blessed to be fortunate enough to be in this situation.

On top of this I have kind of lost my Blogging mojo... I feel like I've lacked creatively and direction, and have been thinking of ways to showcase more of my personality on my Blog. To date my posts have mainly been on items I have purchased and reviews, so this time I have decided to let you into my thoughts a bit more and do a post very close to my heart.....

So my post today is about not judging a book by its cover.... Those of you who follow me on social media will know I'm very much a girly girl and I make no attempts to cover it up. I love dresses, high heels, make-up, anything glitzy, and the colour pink. That is me! It's what I like, and I dress like that all the time - at work, weekends, seeing a friend or just going down to the supermarket. Over the years I've had insecurities about it, I've had boyfriends try to change me, but now I embrace it. I feel truly myself when I'm all dressed up. On top of this, I'm blonde, with a curvy figure and a pretty ample chest. All of this means that on first impressions I'm often thought of as an airhead, a Barbie or a blonde bimbo - ultimately someone who only cares about what they look like and has nothing going on upstairs.

During my career I've been ignored in meetings, told I was employed for my looks (this wasn't true by the way!) and been talked about behind my back, all because of the way I look. When I'm out in a bar and I tell men what I do for a living I get the reply "Oh! really...!" (in a very shocked voice), and I'm afraid to say it is mainly men that have preconceptions of me. Although I'm sure women do too, but they are just better at hiding it! Dating sites are the worst place to be judged. I recently had a man message me on a dating site to say, and I quote " You think you're intellectual? I'll wipe the floor with you every day of the week. If you honestly think you're smart.... what a joke!" He had never net me - just saw some photos and a short bio  and came up with that conclusion. Nice. By the way I've corrected some of his grammar here in my post which is pretty ironic...... But yes, as you can see people judge me purely what they see on the outside.

But the reality of it is far from what people think... I'm no Einstein and I'm not about to go on Mastermind, but I'm definitely no airhead. My full time job is Head of Marketing & Business Development. I'm not going to display my full CV in this post but I've worked hard to be in the position I am today. Marketing is a tough, cut throat industry with lots of competition so I certainly haven't got to where I have through my looks or by luck. I'm also a qualified Interior Designer, plus I am now in a position where people approach me to do freelance Marketing work for them because of my experience and knowledge in my field.

At times I've been really frustrated by this. I'm a career driven woman and I want to be taken seriously for my achievements, but I also like proving people wrong..... Now, rather than get annoyed for being judged I actually get satisfaction out of showing people the real me, and turning their opinions round. I love doing a presentation, or talking to someone about business or marketing and watching the smile on their face appear. I suppose its a case of under promise and over delivering.

So next time you see a homeless person and assume they are a drunk, or see an overweight girl and think she must be eating too much, stop and think for a moment.... Sometimes the way you think about a person, isn't always the way they actually are.... And for all of you out there who get judged - go prove them wrong! :-)

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  1. I agree with this so much! I hate people putting me into a box because I like fashion and makeup! See beyond that. Love this post.

    www.bellaraeblabber.com

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment Bella x

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  2. This is so well put! I'm in a largely male dominated role and work as part of a two person team. I often notice that people approach my colleague rather than me for any assistance or advice, they just naturally assume that the male is the better authority on the subject. Luckilly I've always been up for the challenge and love to change people's perceptions! Just because I like pretty things doesn't mean I don't have a brain!! xx
    www.lovedbylaura.com

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    1. Absolutely! I'm glad that you can relate to it Laura. I'm also in a male dominated industry and that definitely doesn't help! It's a shame that people still have those misconceptions though!...x

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  3. I loved reading this post! I completely agree with a lot of what you say. I'm 27 and regularly in my work I get judged for looking 'like a child' and people often don't take notice of me. Then when I say I'm a student people look down on me even more as I'm 'just' a student, when in actual fact I'm doing my second degree and know enough to be doing the job I'm doing.

    I can't believe the nerve of that guy on the dating site, what a douche! Obviously intimidated by someone as beautiful and ballsy as you! xx

    Laura at Lola and Behold

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    1. Thanks for reading Laura :-) I know! I actually laughed when I read it and I feel sorry for the guy... He must be a pretty angry and bitter person to take the time to write that (and it was a lot longer than that too) and send it to me! In the same message he also said I needed lipo!! haha x

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  4. What a fantastic post! So well said. I love that photo at the end too, couldn't be more true. I can't believe what that douche on the dating site said. What a pitiful man. He clearly needed and ego boost because something is missing in his life. Good on you for being your true self and dressing up as you want to. Great post!! Jade x

    My Blog: Jade With Envy
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    1. Thank you so much for reading and commenting Jade, and glad you liked it :-) xxx

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  5. I've been feeling bogged down with blogging lately, too. People think it's easy and it's really not always simple.
    Sorry to hear that guys have been such judgemental jerks to you, too. I was also really driven and worked really hard and remember having a string of bad online dates and guys who thought they were smarter than I was. I really am blessed that I eventually met my now-husband. As you say judging a book by it's cover, you wouldn't think he's the perfect fit, but after dating him, he really was perfect for me. He loves that I like to dress up and he actually always wears jeans and t-shirts, but a great man with an incredible heart who supports me in everything I do. I know you'll find a guy that'll eventually deserve you for the lovely and beautiful person you are. :)

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    1. I'm so happy that you have met the one for you :-) Thanks for reading Miki xxx

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